The Biggest Signs You’re In Love

Falling in love is one of the most exciting, rewarding and scariest things you could ever do.

Once you're in love with someone, it's hard to remember how you lived without him or her. Of course, you were alive before you met this person, but you really didn't start “living” until the two of you met.

Love is strange. It’s wild, uncontrollable, and can happen totally by accident when you least expect it. If you read anything on this list and think, “Hmmm, weird…” I hate to break it to you, but you might be in love.

Everyone experiences love differently, and at different times. Even the meaning of love is extremely subjective, but I say for certain that anyone who's experienced it knows it's the best feeling ever.

How You Know When You're In Love.

You obsessively check your phone every 10 seconds

Everything reminds you of him

You’ll happily jump through hoops without even thinking about it to spend time with him

You find yourself always talking about him

You re-read his text messages

2 minutes with him is worth more than a whole day without him

It never feels like you’re wasting time with him

You’re endlessly curious about him

Your appetite shrinks

You lose track of time and no amount of time spent with him is ever enough

He drives you crazy, but you still can’t help but love being around him

You have more energy

You get defensive when your BFF is negative about him

You have fun talking with him no matter what you’re talking about

You totally stop thinking about your ex

You do boring stuff with him just to have the chance to spend more time with him

You can talk to him about ANYTHING

You can’t concentrate at work and suddenly have ADD

You can’t explain why you’re always happy

You’re less attracted to other guys

You mentally make note of the things he likes

You save and remember all the firsts you have with him

He scares the hell out of you

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10+1 THINGS TO DO TO PREVENT CHEATING IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP

HOW TO BE FREE FROM DESTRUCTIVE HABIT OF CHEATING THAT IS RUINING YOUR MARRIAGE/ RELATIONSHIP.

  10 THINGS TO DO TO PREVENT CHEATING IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP

Some people believe cheating in relationship is inevitable, cheating is becoming normal things in every relationship, partner cheats at some points in a serious relationship and marriage, thou it's not easy to stop or prevent cheating in a relationship because an affair is an emotional connection.

As cheating in marriage is becoming rampant this is one of the causes of divorce in marriage/relationship this days.

Are you among the couples that assume that the vows they took on that glorious day will keep them united forever? Do not, I repeat, do not assume because you have that piece of paper that binds your union that your marriage will stay intact.

If partners neglect their marriage, it will fail and that’s where divorce comes in. Marriages are like plants, if you stop feeding them, they will die. If you want to cheat-proof your marriage, then take the relationship and do the work.

Fact about Marriage: "A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day."

Cheating can sometimes be a way to end an unhealthy relationship, or gain clarity about what is truly fulfilling and to prevent divorce.

Cheating in a relationship is destructive, it’s destroying your soul, killing your spirit, and at the same time ruining your relationship with your spouse or partner.

STEP BY STEP 5THINGS TO DO TO PREVENT CHEATING IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP

 [1]. Have honest and healthy Communication

To make your marriage healthy, strong and fresh every day and to survive, you have to talk to one another. The communication is relationship is not just about your day. Have honest conversations with one another on how you are feeling, what you expect, what is working, not working and never hold things in mind unsaying that just sets up a breeding ground for resentment which can develop to divorce.

[2]. Expect it to be painful to stop cheating

It won’t be easy to end the affair even if you know how much it hurts your partner and children (even if they don’t know that you’re a cheater). Even if you truly want to save your marriage, you’ll struggle to stop cheating. Relationships are emotional and heartfelt, and even the unhealthiest ones are difficult to end.

Preparation is half the battle: expect it to be difficult and even painful to stop cheating on your partner. Get support, help, and resources. You don’t necessarily need to go to marriage counseling…but you should learn why people cheat in relationships. The more knowledge and insight you have, the more equipped you’ll be the end the affair.

[3]. Make Prayer the key

Pray regularly according to your beliefs for your spouse and your marriage. Always mind what you say, utter positive words that encourage your spouse and avoid speaking negatives words to your spouse. Talk your God and ask God to protect your marriage from infidelity.

Also pray against all the power of addiction and communication break down that is affecting your marriage negatively, and faith is what make prayer to be answer, so always have faith in God.

[4]. Appreciate your Spouse

Make sure you appreciate your partner every day, even for the little things. It’s usually those little things that mean the most. Whatever you do, do not nag or berate your partner for all the things you think they do wrong. Make sure you tell your partner how much he or she means to you. Because if you don’t, I promise you, someone else will.

[5]. Get a confession

While confrontation may lead to this step, you've got to be assertive that you ask them clearly whatever is on your mind, so you know the real deal. For instance, if you have a partner who is cheating on you by being just physical with someone, ask them why they did the same. Nonetheless, if your partner were both emotionally and physically available to someone else, that could be a red alert that your relationship has slipped out of your hand for good, and restoring it could take more effort and time.

[6]. Avoid consistency with opposite sex conversations

If your conversations are developing a theme, favorite topic or inside jokes (especially those you don’t share with your spouse), then your communication is becoming more intimate and likely to fulfill needs your spouse should fill. Intimacy always begins with communication and increases with familiarity and comfort in communication.

[7]. Show commitment to your spouse daily

Doing special things for your spouse reminds you of what they mean to you. Leave a sweet note. Call them and connect throughout your day. Make a date to take them somewhere. Think of new things to do together. Focus on the special things your spouse does for you instead of the little things others do to tempt you to cheat. Checking in with your spouse while you’re with other people demonstrates that you value your marriage.

[8]. DON’T try to use sex as a way to “fix” the problem.

While sexual intensity may feel good and intimate in the moment, using sex in this way is actually a form of mutual denial that moves you and your partner away from the process of healing.

DON’T go looking for sex or romance as a way to “get even. ” Getting even only feels good for the few moments you’re doing it, and usually it brings disaster in the end. Seeking sex and love to manage hurt and resentment is a very poor choice, and it only makes things worse.

[9]. Give it time

When someone wise said, time heals it all, they were very true. There's nothing that time doesn't get you to forget. Give your relationship space and time, and also, don't bring back the bad memories of your relationship. Let bygones be bygones. Try never bringing it up in any discussion with your partner. Also, even when you are upset with your partner or have nothing to say in your defense during an argument, ensure you don't try to put them on a guilt trip about the past.

[10]. Forgiveness we take you far.

Be your own person. 

“One must understand the importance of we, but also remember there will always be a you and I. It’s so easy to the think of yourselves as one person once you get married or start dating. But you always have to remember that you’re both completely separate individuals in that, as close and as similar you are, you will have differences in opinion and taste.”

[11]. Build a strong foundation of friendship. 

“You have to be friends. Your husband or wife should be someone that you’d want to hang out with. Of course you have to have the sexual aspect but that’s not enough to sustain a relationship. You’re going to go through hard times and you need someone who you want to spend your time with.”

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See 5 Things You Have to Avoid After Proposal. (Relationship Tips)

The good-news is you just got proposed to but then what next?? what are the steps you need to take to prevent not getting married by your spouse.he proposed because his intentions are pure, he is indirectly saying he is tired of being in the dark, he doesn’t want his relationship with you to be a secret, he wants everyone to know you got his heart and he is willing to share his sadness, happiness with you.

This is not the time to start acting up, he is not married to yet,so playing the wifey game isn’t necessary and another mistake ladies make is hold back after proposal, he only proposed to you, it doesn’t mean you should shut the door to love, it is not the time to distance yourself from friends and family, because he proposed to you doesn’t mean he won’t quit the moment you misbehave.

Another reason he’s prone to quit after proposal might be due to insecurity. you should be able to know your place either as a girlfriend, side chick or wife …after proposal, don’t play the role of a mother, play your role, of course that was why he proposed because he saw the qualities of a wife in you but when you play the role of a mom instead of a wife, you are indirectly telling him he made the wrong choice.

Other reasons why he might never married to you is because you’ve crossed your boundaries…Don’t do this after proposal:

    

Make Decisions For Him: Men hate it when you make decisions for them, they feel you want to take charge over them and because they are used to being the head and not the tail, they expect you to abide by their rules and not the other way round, of course that is why they make the first move. Don’t tell them what to do and what not to do, they expect you to do the listening while they do the talking and they hate it when you try to put them under you, same is applicable after proposal, don’t be the man. they detest bossy ladies, they see them as threat,so in order for them not to go through that, they pull you out immediately.

    Move In Before Marriage: Moving into his house when you are not fully married is not a guarantee that he will marry you, it won’t change a thing if he decides not to proceed. when you move into his house you are indirectly telling him he is your last hope and men know how to deal with such women, so in order not to fall victim, avoid sleeping over or moving into his house. it is okay to visit but don’t drop a reminder, most ladies make that mistake of dropping their undies, toot brush,clothes to remind him she is still in the picture, that doesn’t mean he wont cheat if he wants to, so get rid of such thoughts from your head and avoid being a victim.

    Ask People About Your Partner: The wrong way of getting a question answered is by asking people. Don’t just jump into marriage because all your friends are married and you end up not knowing a thing about your partner. you should create that platform before you say YES and if you still don’t know much about your partner, then ask directly rather then getting answers from the wrong people. Don’t jump around asking questions about your spouse, ask them to avoid getting stuck.

    Talk About Your Partner: Relationships aren’t as sweet as it seem, there are ups and downs which is why it is never advisable to bad mouth your partner in public especially when you both are going through relationship trauma,it is not the time to share it on social media, or tell all your friends about it, it is the time to work things out, the moment you let it out, he will back out immediately because no man wants to get married to a loud woman.

    Less Friends: He proposed to  you and he can 

still fink out when he notice any slight change but for that not to happen, you should learn to create a small cycle of friends…don’t let out much and don’t take in much either. The less friends you’ve got, the lesser problem you get.

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TIPS TO KNOW YOUR PARTNER IS PLAYING WITH YOUR EMOTIONS. No2 will surprise you.

Everyone on this planet is worthy of true, unconditional love. Unfortunately, it’s not always obvious to us when we’re being abused (because we think it’s normal).

Below are the 5 ways to know your Partner is Manipulating your Emotions.
If your partner does any of these five things, he or she is an emotional psychopath and you need to think about ditching the relationship altogether.

[1]. They have a tendency to ‘gaslight’ you

Gaslighting is a term that refers to when an abuser purposely lies about things or spins information to make you question your reality.

The term comes from a 1938 stage play in which a husband “attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane by manipulating small elements of their environment and insisting that she is mistaken, remembering things incorrectly, or delusional when she points out these changes.”

If your partner denies any and all wrongdoing by simply shifting the blame onto you, they’re just trying to make you doubt yourself so that they can continue to abuse your trust.

[2]. They degrade and demean you

Most emotional psychopaths are broken on the inside. It’s their own insecurity and lack of self-esteem that makes them want to bring others down to their level.

They will try to break your spirit and make you feel worthless so that they can influence your thoughts and behaviors. This makes you think that you need them more than you really do.

[2]. They like to shift the blame to you

Emotional psychopaths aren’t keen on being held accountable for any of their poor behaviors, which usually means that it’s always someone else’s fault.

They like to put on a charismatic and charming persona when shifting blame. They could talk about whatever problem the two of you are having, but instead they simply say it’s your fault and call it a day.

[4]. Their own poor circumstances aren’t their fault, either

Just as they like to make you think that every fight and argument you’ve ever had is your fault, they also like to make you think that their own crappy life problems are because of things that you do.

If they’re not doing well at their job, it’s your fault. If they somehow found themselves in jail, it’s your fault. They wasted all of their money? Your fault again.

[5]. They try to keep you away from others who might realize what’s happening

Abusers know that not everyone is weak and easily manipulated like their partners.

So, when their partners start talking to others about what’s going on in the relationship, there’s a good chance someone else will figure out what’s going on. And they can’t be having that.

If your partner regularly tells you to stay away from friends and family members, it’s because they’re trying to keep you away from anyone who will disrupt their abusive tendencies.

They will turn you against your friends and family, just so they can keep you under their reign of terror.

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Key to Happy marriage and relationship, 5 STEPS TO PREVENT CHEATING HABITS IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP

 

7 THINGS TO DO TO PREVENT HABIT OF CHEATING IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP

As cheating in marriage is becoming rampant this is one of the causes of divorce in marriage/relationship this days.

Fact about Marriage: "A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day."

Cheating can sometimes be a way to end an unhealthy relationship, or gain clarity about what is truly fulfilling and to prevent divorce.

Cheating in a relationship is destructive, it’s destroying your soul, killing your spirit, and at the same time ruining your relationship with your spouse or partner.

STEP BY STEP THINGS TO DO TO PREVENT CHEATING IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP

[1] Be your own person. One must understand the importance of we, but also remember there will always be a you and I. It’s so easy to the think of yourselves as one person once you get married or start dating. But you always have to remember that you’re both completely separate individuals in that, as close and as similar you are, you will have differences in opinion and taste.”

 [2]  Build a strong foundation of friendship.

“You have to be friends. Your husband or wife should be someone that you’d want to hang out with. Of course you have to have the sexual aspect but that’s not enough to sustain a relationship. You’re going to go through hard times and you need someone who you want to spend your time with.”

[3] Get a confession

While confrontation may lead to this step, you've got to be assertive that you ask them clearly whatever is on your mind, so you know the real deal. For instance, if you have a partner who is cheating on you by being just physical with someone, ask them why they did the same. Nonetheless, if your partner were both emotionally and physically available to someone else, that could be a red alert that your relationship has slipped out of your hand for good, and restoring it could take more effort and time.

   

[4] Give enough Freedom

While too much independence the kind that leads to infidelity or workaholism is a marriage breaker, too much dependence isn't the answer either. "Every good marriage is based on an awful lot of separation," Nock says. "People need to have a separate life and existence to feel validated as individuals. They can't live solely as somebody's partner."

[5]. Avoid consistency with opposite sex conversations

If your conversations are developing a theme, favorite topic or inside jokes (especially those you don’t share with your spouse), then your communication is becoming more intimate and likely to fulfill needs your spouse should fill. Intimacy always begins with communication and increases with familiarity and comfort in communication.

[6] Show commitment to your spouse daily

Doing special things for your spouse reminds you of what they mean to you. Leave a sweet note. Call them and connect throughout your day. Make a date to take them somewhere. Think of new things to do together. Focus on the special things your spouse does for you instead of the little things others do to tempt you to cheat. Checking in with your spouse while you’re with other people demonstrates that you value your marriage.

[7] Be honest. 

“Be honest about shit that pisses you off, don’t sweat the small stuff, and have good sex.” 

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How to get rid of Mouth Odor (Halitosis) completely | 12 Easy natural ways to Get Rid of Bad Mouth Odor.

Mouth odor (Halitosis ) the most humiliating condition.

What can be more embarrassing as being unable to speak out in the midst of friends and families?

 It is a shameful experience to have your spouse decline your attempt for a kiss.
 More than 80 million people suffer from chronic halitosis or bad breath. In most cases it is the gum and tongue. Bacteria that cause odor of waste in the mouth, deterioration of food particles and other waste of good oral hygiene.

 WHAT IS HALITOSIS (MOUTH ODOR)?

Halitosis is simply refers to as Mouth Odor or Bad breath or Bad Mouth Odor, Bad mouth odor is medically called halitosis, is usually caused by the breakdown of food. Other culprits include poor dental hygiene, dry mouth, disease, infection, tobacco use and severe dieting.

Halitosis is the third most common reason that people seek dental care (after tooth decay and gum disease).

 We must be very watchful of what we eat and the times we do; most people eat raw onions and locust beans often because of its health benefit, but are we aware it triggers halitosis? Often times we find ourselves eating suya with all sorts of fresh ingredients and don't even bother to take care of our teeth and mouth before sleeping.

Meat and fish leave some particles of proteins in the gums and in between teeth daily, which are being fed upon by anaerobic, sulfur- producing bacteria. The tongue and gums can produce unpleasant smelling gases and can lead to tooth decay.

CAUSES OF MOUTH ODOR (HALITOSIS)

(a) POOR DENTAL HYGIENE: The most common cause of bad breath is poor dental hygiene. As bacteria break down particles of food, sulfur compounds are produced that cause odor.

Persistent bad breath or a bad taste in the mouth may be a warning sign of gum (periodontal) disease. Gum disease is caused by the buildup of plaque on teeth. Bacteria cause the formation of toxins to form, which irritate the gums. If gum disease continues untreated, it can damage the gums and jawbone.

(b) CHRONIC DRY MOUTH: Problems from the salivary gland and Chronic dry mouth can also cause mouth odor.

WHY DOES HALITOSIS HAPPEN.

Brushing, flossing and mouthwash will only mask the odor temporarily; odors continue until the body eliminates the food. Dieters can develop unpleasant breath from infrequent eating. Bad breath can also be caused by dry mouth (known as xerostomia), which occurs when the flow of saliva decreases.

EASY WAYS TO GET RID OF MOUTH ODOR  (HALITOSIS)

[1]  Lemons:

Lemons like most citrus fruits are acidic. They prevent the growth of most bacteria. To get rid of mouth odour, add a teaspoon of lemon to a cup of water. Add a pinch of salt. Gargle this mixture before bed daily.

[2]  Apple Cider Vinegar:

Apple cider vinegar has antiseptic properties. To get rid of bad breath, mix a tablespoon of apple cider vinegar with a cup of water and drink

[3]  Drink water: Keep your mouth moist by drinking plenty of water.
Clean your dentures at least once a day: Practice the same, proper oral
care that you would with your original teeth.

[4]  Tea:

Drink green and black teas: They contain polyphenols that help eliminate sulfur compounds and reduce oral bacteria.

[5]  Eat foods rich in fiber:

High fiber foods help prevent halitosis. Avoid eating heavily processed foods that contain refined carbohydrates such as cookies, cakes, sweets and ice cream.

[6] Use mouthwash:

Some mouthwashes or oral rinses are effective at preventing bad breath. However, you should never use alcohol based mouthwashes because the alcohol makes the mouth very dry, which will actually make the problem worse.

[7] Avoid drying medication: 

Try not to take antidepressants, diuretics, pain relievers, and antihistamines unless it is absolutely medically necessary. These drugs inhibit saliva flow and can cause chronic dry mouth.

[8] Avoid products with sodium lauryl sulfate or alcohol: 

Do not use any oral hygiene products that contain sodium lauryl sulfate or alcohol because the alcohol makes the mouth very dry, one of the most common causes of bad breath.

Clean your mouth after eating meat, fish or dairy products: Practicing consistent and thorough oral hygiene is an effective prevention tool.

[9] Stop smoking: 

Studies have shown that smokers are at higher risk of developing periodontal disease and dry mouth. Furthermore, people who smoke may also engage in other habits that promote this condition such as dieting, drinking alcohol, and suffering from chronic anxiety conditions that require exacerbating prescription medications.

[10] Breathe through your nose instead of your mouth: 

Try to address any snoring or sleep apnea issues that could be affecting
your breath and causing dry mouth.

[11] Baking Soda:

Baking soda is the “baba nla” of DIY hacks everywhere. You can use it to white your teeth, remove bad breath and even to bake. For mouth odour, mix a teaspoon of baking soda in warm water. Gargle this mixture twice a day for maximum effect.

[12] Eliminate dairy products from your diet: Lactose intolerance can be an underlying cause of halitosis.

Use an oral probiotic like S. salivarius K12 and M18: Use probiotics to balance the oral cavity and prevent an overgrowth of the odor-causing bacteria involved in halitosis.

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