HOW TO BE FREE FROM DESTRUCTIVE HABIT OF CHEATING THAT IS RUINING YOUR MARRIAGE/ RELATIONSHIP.
10 THINGS TO DO TO PREVENT CHEATING IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP
Some people believe cheating in relationship is inevitable, cheating is becoming normal things in every relationship, partner cheats at some points in a serious relationship and marriage, thou it's not easy to stop or prevent cheating in a relationship because an affair is an emotional connection.
As cheating in marriage is becoming rampant this is one of the causes of divorce in marriage/relationship this days.
If partners neglect their marriage, it will fail and that’s where divorce comes in. Marriages are like plants, if you stop feeding them, they will die. If you want to cheat-proof your marriage, then take the relationship and do the work.
Fact about Marriage: "A successful marriage is an edifice that must be rebuilt every day."
Cheating can sometimes be a way to end an unhealthy relationship, or gain clarity about what is truly fulfilling and to prevent divorce.
Cheating in a relationship is destructive, it’s destroying your soul, killing your spirit, and at the same time ruining your relationship with your spouse or partner.
STEP BY STEP 5THINGS TO DO TO PREVENT CHEATING IN YOUR MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP
[1]. Have honest and healthy Communication
To make your marriage healthy, strong and fresh every day and to survive, you have to talk to one another. The communication is relationship is not just about your day. Have honest conversations with one another on how you are feeling, what you expect, what is working, not working and never hold things in mind unsaying that just sets up a breeding ground for resentment which can develop to divorce.
[2]. Expect it to be painful to stop cheating
It won’t be easy to end the affair even if you know how much it hurts your partner and children (even if they don’t know that you’re a cheater). Even if you truly want to save your marriage, you’ll struggle to stop cheating. Relationships are emotional and heartfelt, and even the unhealthiest ones are difficult to end.
Preparation is half the battle: expect it to be difficult and even painful to stop cheating on your partner. Get support, help, and resources. You don’t necessarily need to go to marriage counseling…but you should learn why people cheat in relationships. The more knowledge and insight you have, the more equipped you’ll be the end the affair.
[3]. Make Prayer the key
Pray regularly according to your beliefs for your spouse and your marriage. Always mind what you say, utter positive words that encourage your spouse and avoid speaking negatives words to your spouse. Talk your God and ask God to protect your marriage from infidelity.
Also pray against all the power of addiction and communication break down that is affecting your marriage negatively, and faith is what make prayer to be answer, so always have faith in God.
[4]. Appreciate your Spouse
Make sure you appreciate your partner every day, even for the little things. It’s usually those little things that mean the most. Whatever you do, do not nag or berate your partner for all the things you think they do wrong. Make sure you tell your partner how much he or she means to you. Because if you don’t, I promise you, someone else will.
[5]. Get a confession
While confrontation may lead to this step, you've got to be assertive that you ask them clearly whatever is on your mind, so you know the real deal. For instance, if you have a partner who is cheating on you by being just physical with someone, ask them why they did the same. Nonetheless, if your partner were both emotionally and physically available to someone else, that could be a red alert that your relationship has slipped out of your hand for good, and restoring it could take more effort and time.
[6]. Avoid consistency with opposite sex conversations
If your conversations are developing a theme, favorite topic or inside jokes (especially those you don’t share with your spouse), then your communication is becoming more intimate and likely to fulfill needs your spouse should fill. Intimacy always begins with communication and increases with familiarity and comfort in communication.
[7]. Show commitment to your spouse daily
Doing special things for your spouse reminds you of what they mean to you. Leave a sweet note. Call them and connect throughout your day. Make a date to take them somewhere. Think of new things to do together. Focus on the special things your spouse does for you instead of the little things others do to tempt you to cheat. Checking in with your spouse while you’re with other people demonstrates that you value your marriage.
[8]. DON’T try to use sex as a way to “fix” the problem.
While sexual intensity may feel good and intimate in the moment, using sex in this way is actually a form of mutual denial that moves you and your partner away from the process of healing.
DON’T go looking for sex or romance as a way to “get even. ” Getting even only feels good for the few moments you’re doing it, and usually it brings disaster in the end. Seeking sex and love to manage hurt and resentment is a very poor choice, and it only makes things worse.
[9]. Give it time
When someone wise said, time heals it all, they were very true. There's nothing that time doesn't get you to forget. Give your relationship space and time, and also, don't bring back the bad memories of your relationship. Let bygones be bygones. Try never bringing it up in any discussion with your partner. Also, even when you are upset with your partner or have nothing to say in your defense during an argument, ensure you don't try to put them on a guilt trip about the past.
[10]. Forgiveness we take you far.
Be your own person.
“One must understand the importance of we, but also remember there will always be a you and I. It’s so easy to the think of yourselves as one person once you get married or start dating. But you always have to remember that you’re both completely separate individuals in that, as close and as similar you are, you will have differences in opinion and taste.”
[11]. Build a strong foundation of friendship.
“You have to be friends. Your husband or wife should be someone that you’d want to hang out with. Of course you have to have the sexual aspect but that’s not enough to sustain a relationship. You’re going to go through hard times and you need someone who you want to spend your time with.”
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